How to Build Marriage Unity That Will Endure Throughout All Eternity

1 DECISIONS AND CHOICES Have you ever worried about the decisions you have to make? How do you make decisions? Do you blame others if your decision turns out to be the wrong one? Do you feel sometimes that you have no choice? What is the key factor in making a decision? Have you ever wondered why some people are more successful than others? Is it their ability to make decisions? Do you know what separates successful people from those who are not as successful? It is the ability to make a decision and make it quickly. Now I am not talking just about being successful in making money, but successful in all aspects of your life. The success that I will address here is of course the success of your eternal progression with regards to you and your eternal mate. Successful people make up their minds quickly and change their minds slowly. Unsuccessful people make up their minds slowly and change their minds quickly, if they are even able to come to a decision at all. I want you to become successful. Some people get into the habit of gathering the facts, thinking about it, mulling it over and thinking about it some more for several weeks. Then they ask their spouse about it. Then they proceed to ask their parents and their friends about it to get their opinion. Then after a long period of time they finally make a decision. Then they think about that decision wondering if it is the right one for a while. They don’t act on it because they want to see what their spouse, parents or friends think about the decision. Then once they get the feedback from everyone they may change their decision based upon the new input from what others thought. Then they think about that for a while. They don’t want to fail at this particular thing so they really study it out some more. Uggggg! This kind of thinking will get you nowhere fast! The point of all the analysis is to come up with a decision, right? Of course it is. Yes, reasonable research may be necessary but do it quickly and make the decision. God gave us a brain and the ability to make a decision. He knew we would not always make the right decision, but he also gave us the ability to correct the decision by making another decision. If the first decision doesn’t work out, we can correct it. But by all means, make a decision and implement it right away! Many decisions we could make, we don’t make. These types of decisions are based on fear of the unknown. If we do not have a plan to see them come to pass, we fail to make the decision in the first place. Sometimes we have to make a decision based on what we know is right, yet we don’t see a way to accomplish what we have decided. The key here is to decide first. Your desire to fulfill that decision will help you find the way to accomplish it. Sometimes you must rely on the Lord to help you accomplish your desire. President John F. Kennedy made a decision. He said that we would put a man on the moon and return him safely to earth before the end of the decade. This had never been done before. Do you think he had any idea of how he was going to do that? He only knew that a decision had to be made and somehow it would be done. Were there problems and setbacks along the way? Of course there were. Did they make perfect decisions every time about all the things that were necessary to do this? Not hardly. Everything was trial and error. Did he accomplish it? Of course he did. This was because a decision had been made and they set out to accomplish it. They stuck with it. So, don’t get stuck in paralysis of analysis. Don’t get stuck on stuff like: do it or don’t do it, tell them or don’t tell them, go to work or call in sick, buy it or don’t buy it, quit or stay, etc. Make the decision and implement the action. Then stick to the action until it works. If you need to make some adjustments, then do it and keep at it. Remember, once you make a decision and it is not quite right, you can always make a new decision to correct it. MAKING A WRONG DECISION MAY BENEFIT YOU Some people worry so much about failing if they make the wrong decision. Well think about this. If you make a wrong decision about something and then find out that it is wrong, you have just eliminated one thing that doesn’t work. Now you try something else until it does work. Each failure brings you closer to what does work, doesn’t it? This life is all for our experience. And by the way, each thing that doesn’t work does not make you a failure. The only thing that makes you a failure is if you quit. Quitting is a decision, a decision to fail. Also likewise, if you make no decision, you decide to fail. Make no mistake about it, making no decision is a decision also. You have got to make a decision on the knowledge you have at the time. So make that decision and press forward with it. We all know about the great invention of the light bulb. This is a classic story of decision and failure. Edison made the decision that he would invent the light bulb. Edison failed over a thousand times in trying to perfect the light bulb. He tried and tried until he finally came up with the solution. He was persistent and had to fail over a thousand times before he saw the light! He kept failing until he got it right. He had made the decision that he would make it work and made adjustments until it did. This is what we should do as well. We should make the decision quickly and be persistent at achieving what we have decided to do. DECISIONS ABOUT YOUR MATE Now that you have decided to make your decisions quickly and carry them out right away, we need to talk about the decisions that you need to make concerning your eternal mate. If you have been married or sealed together in the temple, you have obviously made certain commitments. In my experience, most couples take on these commitments and truly want to honor them but have trouble doing so. It is in small ways that Satan works his way into our lives to destroy the sanctity of this marriage or sealing. Most of us go on about our lives thinking, “Of course I love my eternal companion and will do everything I can to preserve our marriage.” But do you really have a game plan to make that a reality? Do you have the tools to seal the two of you together? Are you working at it? My guess is that you are flying by the seat of your pants. Am I right? There are no manuals for your particular marriage that includes specifics based on your personalities. Yet you have embarked on this journey together to who knows where, right? You have made a decision to become a celestial couple and have no real game plan to keep it all together. For this reason I have brought forth the tools in this book. The tools in this book will help you far more than you will comprehend. It will be far reaching in all of your relationships and especially with your eternal mate. If practiced on a daily basis you will have a little heaven on earth. I am experiencing it right now and so can you. My point is that from this point forward you are being presented with decisions that will affect your life. As you read this book you will either say yes, this will work for me or you will say no. Either way it is your decision. All I ask is that you make a decision as you read. If you want your life to change for the better, you will heed what is written within these pages. I do not want you to read this book and say, “Oh that’s nice.” put it down and forget about it. This is a working manual that will help you to succeed as an eternal couple. The principles herein are practical and actually used and have facilitated happy marriages. Do not take them lightly. HEAVEN ON EARTH The decision I want you to make right now is do you want to have heaven on earth with your eternal companion that will carry on into the eternities? If your decision is yes, then read on. If it is no, then you might as well give this book to someone else who has said yes. If your answer is yes, then I applaud you. This is a decision that you wi