The Way Is Love

The “unloving spirit” is one of the most powerful and controlling principalities working in the lives of mankind since the Garden of Eden. Lucifer (the devil or Satan) rebelled against God, and Adam and Eve agreed with him. Unloving spirits come out of bitterness, accusation, envy, jealousy, and rejection. If we have unloving spirits, we may have fear of other people. When we believe these anti-Christ spirits, we may begin to hate ourselves, and we may hide inside ourselves out of fear of what others might think or accept. Some people cut themselves or have suicidal thoughts. In 2 Timothy 3, we see how unloving spirits work in people’s lives.

I didn’t know about the unloving spirit until I took Health To You Ministry’s Walking In Wholeness Basic Course. It was never mentioned to me in church. We may have this spirit in us and not know it, or like myself, not even know such a thing exists or that it may be affecting our lives. I want to shed some light in the darkness around the unloving spirit.

I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; marvellous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well. My frame was not hidden from You when I was made in secret, and skillfully wrought in the lowest parts of the earth. Your eyes saw my substance, being yet unformed, and in Your book they all were written, the days fashioned for me, when as yet there were none of them.

Psalm 139:14–16 NKJV

God says we were uniquely knit together in our mother’s womb by God, our Creator. We are wonderfully made. He loves us just the way He made us! When we have an unloving spirit, we may dislike ourselves and worry about what others think about us. We may think everyone is looking at us and criticizing us. We may think we are not dressed as nicely or are not as smart as others. If we have an unloving spirit working in our lives, we may feel hated or rejected by ourselves or others. At some point in our lives, people may have said things like this:

I wish you’d never been born. You were an accident. You weren’t planned for. You messed up our lives. It’s all your fault. Can’t you ever do anything right? You’ll never amount to anything.

These things may have been spoken over us when we were young, or even still in the womb, and the devil has trained our brains so that we now think it is true, and those thoughts keep repeating themselves over and over again in our minds.

If we have an unloving spirit, we may feel like garbage, unworthy, alone. Maybe we don’t like the sound of our own voice and don’t like what we see in the mirror. We may find it hard to look someone in the eye. Unloving spirits don’t allow us to accept a compliment, so we will tend to say things like, “Oh, it was nothing,” instead of receiving the compliment and saying thank you. We may even establish a wrong identity or put on a false face. When we go out in public, we may put on happy faces, but inside we are feeling sad and dark.

When we don’t feel good about ourselves, we may tend to treat others poorly. We may even think that God will heal other people, but when it comes to ourselves, we think that we aren’t good enough or worthy to be healed. When we read the Word of God, we may feel accused or think that God is picking apart our own personal traits. We may feel that what God says can’t be true for us. We may often spend money on things we don’t need to make ourselves feel better – a temporary lift. Some people may try to hurt themselves, eat too much, steal things, and/or use bad language. Are you aware that most people with addictions have an unloving spirit?

Traits of an Unloving Spirit

Feeling hated and/or rejected by ourselves or others. Thinking we aren’t liked. Believing things people have said to us that were not nice or maybe even condemning.

Feeling unclean or like garbage, unworthy, unlovely. Believing accusatory or hurtful remarks made about us even by well-meaning people.

Not liking the sound of our own voices. Not liking what we see in the mirror and maybe even shrinking away when saying our own names. Believing the lies of Satan and comparing ourselves to others we may envy, thinking they are better than we are.

Feeling separated from God, ourselves, and others. Feeling lonely and perhaps as if life has no purpose; always looking for approval or for a compliment.

Being unable to look someone in the eye. Unloving spirits take away our confidence and our sense of self-worth. We may feel ashamed of ourselves.

Being unable to accept a compliment. If someone says something nice to us, we may contradict them. This is also a “victim spirit”. We don’t believe we are worthy, or we may even think that people are just saying it to be nice.

Using a false identity. How we feel about ourselves may be based on rejection, self-bitterness, envy, self-hate, etc. God created us, and He said we were “very good”! Don’t you think that if we don’t believe we are “very good”, then we are saying our Heavenly Daddy made a mistake?

Treating others poorly. We tend to put other people down, even if we do it by using words of love. This makes people think that we don’t love them.

Believing others will be healed but thinking that we are not good enough for God to heal us!

Feeling accused. Even when we read God’s Word, we feel as if He is accusing us. We take innocent comments made by others the wrong way.

Thinking it can’t be true for us. Even though God says we are beloved children, we may believe that doesn’t include us. When we do this, we are actually going against God and His Word. We might think that no one loves us, so why should God love us?

Come against yourself. We may try to hurt ourselves. Some people cut themselves. We may spend money on things we don’t need or eat more than we should. Some people want to steal things from stores, and others use foul language.

Who broke your heart? You may believe love will never come again. You may expect disappointment instead.